Tuesday, March 7, 2017

Manage Energy, not Time..and Work Life Balance will follow

An article which I found worth sharing:

Being part of a hyper-growth startup, means that most of my days are in a state of change and flux. No small mission, that! A significant portion of my work life is unpredictable, very exciting and therefore correspondingly stressful. Very few days are comparable and predictable. 

And in my career, I have met many women who are leading incredible organizations while chasing the elusive work-life balance. Now, I know the phrase is clichéd and very subjective. To me, it is more about reprioritizing as life takes its course and career evolves. I think of it less about balancing a scale and more about managing to do justice to each role that we women undertake.

I started my career with McKinsey and in true consulting style, I have three guiding principles that have helped me manoeuver work and life.

1) Ruthless prioritization: at home and at work. For the most part, it takes the same time to do unimportant tasks as it does to do important ones. My top goal, every week, is to have a clear idea of my to-do list, and to knock off 10-15% off the original list. Again, this refers to both work and personal tasks, knowing it is ok to say no to things that are not very crucial or consequential. This also focuses on productivity, ensuring that your time is being directed to only the most important activities.

2) Manage energy, not time: Today, technology, travel and connectedness ensures that we need to stretch ourselves and our work schedules. But within those demands, one of the things that I have found very helpful is to create space for 'sacred rituals', that define activities you enjoy with your partner, family and even colleagues. These could be as simple as a morning walk or a team coffee every other Friday. Rituals, like these, help bring strong identity to relationships and making time sacrosanct, while creating positive energy that is uplifting.

3) Communicate. And then some. Some of my women friends who are in leadership positions have constantly restated one advice - find trusted colleagues you can share your experiences and emotions with. And more importantly, trusting your partner and close family with what is happening at work. Creating this transparency lets your closed ones bring empathy and allows close colleagues and mentors support you at work.

Overall, trying to balance work and life takes active energy and effort. It is about balancing work, personal life and what women sometimes tend to overlook, our personal self. Taking time to routinely check in with your partner/family or taking a quick break to be close to nature are very effective. At the end of the day, it is more about realigning priorities - some days will be more work than play. But, as long as there are days of play, we'll be fine! 






Monday, July 18, 2011

I would call this the "Real Love"....

Love...............

From the very beginning, the girl's family objected strongly on her dating this guy. Saying that it has got to do with family background & that the girl will have to suffer for the rest of her life if she were to be with him.

Due to family's pressure, the couple quarrel very often. Though the girl love the guy deeply, but she always ask him: "How deep is your love for me?"

As the guy is not good with his words, this often causes the girl to be very upset. With that & the family's pressure, the girl often vents her anger on him. As for him, he only endures it in silence.

After a couple of years, the guy finally graduated & decided to further his studies in overseas. Before leaving, he proposed to the girl: "I'm not very good with words. But all I know is that I love you. If you allow me, I will take care of you for the rest of my life. As for your family, I'll try my best to talk them round. Will you marry me?"

The girl agreed, & with the guy's determination, the family finally gave in & agreed to let them get married. So before he leaves, they got engaged.

The girl went out to the working society, whereas the guy was overseas, continuing his studies. They sent their love through emails & phone calls. Though it's hard, but both never thought of giving up.

One day, while the girl was on her way to work, she was knocked down by a car that lost control. When she woke up, she saw her parents beside her bed. She realized that she was badly injured. Seeing her mum crying, she wanted to comfort her. But she realized that all that could come out of her mouth was just a sigh. She has lost her voice......

The doctor says that the impact on her brain has caused her to lose her voice. Listening to her parents' comfort, but with nothing coming out from her, she broke down.

During the stay in hospital, besides silence cry,.....it's still just silence cry that companied her. Upon reaching home, everything seems to be the same. Except for the ringing tone of the phone. Which pierced into her heart every time it rang. She does not wish to let the guy know. & not wanting to be a burden to him, she wrote a letter to him saying that she does not wish to wait any longer.

With that, she sent the ring back to him. In return, the guy sent millions & millions of reply, and countless of phone calls,.. all the girl could do, besides crying, is still crying....

The parents decided to move away, hoping that she could eventually forget everything & be happy.

With a new environment, the girl learnt sign language & started a new life. Telling herself everyday that she must forget the guy. One day, her friend came & told her that he's back. She asked her friend not to let him know what happened to her. Since then, there wasn't anymore news of him.

A year has passed & her friend came with an envelope, containing an invitation card for the guy's wedding. The girl was shattered. When she opened the letter, she saw her name in it instead.

When she was about to ask her friend what's going on, she saw the guy standing in front of her. He used sign language telling her "I've spent a year's time to learn sign language. Just to let you know that I've not forgotten our promise. Let me have the chance to be your voice. I Love You. With that, he slipped the ring back into her finger. The girl finally smiled.

Tuesday, March 1, 2011

I feel proud to be a MOM

Being a mother is both an honor and a challenge.....

I took it as an honor. Still people say that why you tell it to everyone that you have a 5 yrs old son..can't you hide it....People will think that you are growing old now, your young days are gone...Attitude of people will change towards you...and bla bla bla...What rubbish na...I only smile after listening all this.

I still remember my first day on job in Mumbai as a Live chat sales executive in Andheri. First day itself my manager asked me - Are u married ? I said yes and complimented my statement with a good news that I have a 5 months old son too. He and all other members of staff looked at me in such a way as if I had done some crime or what....and the manager said," If I would have known this, I would not have appointed you"....Just imagine how I would have felt that time when he told this to me in front of whole staff but I was least bothered...The feeling of being a Mom was much greater than his stupid words.

I started working when my son was just 5 months old. I still remember that every morning how tough it was for me to leave him, his smiling face, small hands..everything stopped me from going on work but just one thing which was his "future" gave me courage to leave home....I used to cry in train but in such a way that nobody should see me, tears should remain just behind my specs.....even after reaching office as I was just an executive that time, it was not allowed to call often at home...so I used to hide somewhere and talk to my mother-in-law just to know how is my son. I just wanted to listen his voice once.

And in the evening, I used to run like anything as I had to feed him. No matter how much traffic was, how much rush was there in train...I just had to see him...Everyone used to ask me, why are you running....but I had no reply. After reaching home, I used to feel as if I got my life back.

Still even after all these things, my work never got affected. I worked for more than one year in that company and got promoted first as Senior executive and then as Research Analyst. And I still remember that when I was giving my resignation, that same manager told me,"Don't go, you are an asset for our company"...

That phase of my life taught me lot many things and I really thank god to support me always...:)

Monday, February 28, 2011

What are the advantages of a small business website?

With today's fast-paced industries, businesses without an online presence are usually left behind. Whether you plan to sell products or offer your clients with a list of services online, the advantages of having a small business website are evident. Since product search and online shopping are becoming increasingly popular and convenient, millions of people search for different services and products on a daily basis. With these active numbers using the World Wide Web regularly, small business companies would be crazy not to take advantage of having a website as an effective and low-cost promotional tool.

Just like traditional businesses, the online economy is also a competitive field. Although the advantages of small business websites can truly increase a company's revenue, the domain name, web design, search engine placement and other factors play a large role in making or breaking the success of your online business. However, using the proper tools and following the right path to success can launch your small business into an online money-making machine.
The great thing about the Internet is most services can be obtained without charge.

For instance, if you need to advertise you services and products, you can easily enlist them in search engines and other directories for thousands of people to see. You also have an option of paying for advertisement placement in order to target the right visitors who are your potential customers.

While there are hundreds of web hosting companies that offer their services free of charge, business websites are more visible online when they have their own domains and web hosting. Realize that you need to impress your visitors not only through your products and services, but also through how well you presented the products and services.

Having your own domain name, web hosting provider, personalized e-mail address, secured payment systems and other tools can attract more visitors to your website than a free-to-host website simply because professional-looking sites indicate a trustworthy and serious business.
Websites provide small businesses an advantage compared to other companies still selling their products and services the old-fashioned way.

In order to increase customers, multiply profits and amplify your company's popularity, the only way is to take advantage of small business websites and introduce your products and services to the world.

Saturday, February 26, 2011

Why So.....?

Before starting this post.....wanna ask a very typical question - what do u think love is ?
Ok, now I m sure lot of thoughts would have started jumping into your mind, you would have started thinking all ur sms, google quotes or in case you have any boyfriend/ girlfriend, then what he or she has told you...what u actually feel for them and so on...I m not sure whether I m right or not bt ya I m definitely close to you.....
I also kept on wondering that what love is....in childhood, when got my first crush, was that a love or kept on writing lot many things by thinking someone, was that a love or watiting for someone special to come in my life...was that love or fighting with my whole family for someone, was that a love...or spending lot of time in travelling just to see a glance of that someone, was that a love....or feeling jealous and possessive for him, was that a love.....actually I m still confused that what love is, was it just a simple attraction or I was just behaving like an emotional fool....
My father always told me that - dear, none of the love is real...that is just a timepass of those guys for which they use 100 tricks and now I agree with him but then at that stage why I felt like helpless, mindless....forgot every teaching of my dad, just kept on thinking about that someone special....even though he was not at all thinking about me...actually he was a trickster but I didn't recognize that...just started flowing in his words...and later on got the best learning of life...
Actually I m sure that this case is with most of us. especially with all females...that whenever anyone praises us, or shows us little great importance or shows as if he won't be able to live without us...we all start believing them....we start remembering each and every single word uttered from his mouth whenever we are alone....why this happens, have we ever wondered....why we always want someone to praise us, or to love us, or to make us feel special....though we know sometimes that he is telling lie but we don't want to think that aspect....
Why we can't become little strong and stop believing blindly someone...or we are really very big hearted that we will fogive everyone who ever will hurt us....This is our foolishness or our genuineness......wanna all of you to think....Please

Friday, February 25, 2011

Yaarab ! wo na samjhe hain na samjhenge meree baat, De aur dil unko, jo na de mujhko zubaan aur

Hai  bas ki har ik unke ishaare meiN nishaaN aur
Karte haiN muhobbat to guzarata hai gumaaN aur

[ gumaaN = doubt/suspicion ]


Yaarab ! wo na samjhe haiN na samjheNge meree baat
De aur dil unko, jo na de mujhko zubaaN aur


Abroo se hai kya us nigah-e-naaz ko paiwand
Hai teer muqarrar magar uskee hai kamaaN aur

[ abroo = eyebrow, paiband = patch ]


Tum shahar meiN ho to hameiN kya GHam ? jab uTHeNge
Le aayenge baazaar se jaakar dil-o-jaaN aur


Harchand subak_dast hue but_shikanee meiN
Ham haiN, to abhee raah meiN hai sang-e-giraaN aur

[ subak_dast (or sabuk_dast both are correct) = expert,
but_shikanee = iconoclast, sang = stone, giraaN = heavy ]


Hai KHoon-e-jigar josh meiN dil khol ke rota
Hote kaee jo deeda-e-KHooNnaaba_fishaaN aur

[ deeda = eye, KHooNnaaba = mixture of blood and water,
{KHooNnaaba = KHooN (= blood) + aab (= water)}, fishaaN = shed
/spread, KHooNnaaba_fishaaN = to sheds tears of blood ]


Marta hooN is aawaaz pe harchand sar uD jaay
Jallaad ko lekin wo kahe jaayaiN ki 'haaN aur'

[ jallaad = executioner ]


LogoN ko hai KHursheed-e-jahaaN taab ka dhoka
Har roz dikhaata hooN maiN ik daaGH-e-nihaaN aur

[ Khursheed = sun, taab = power/courage, nihaaN = hidden ]


Leta, na agar dil tumhe deta, koee dam cheiNn
Karta, jo na marta koee din, aah-o-fuGHaaN aur

[ fuGHaaN = clamour ]


Paate naheeN jab raah, to chaD jaate haiN naale
Ruktee hai meree tab'a to hotee hai ravaaN aur

[ naale = lamentation, tab'a = temperament ]


HaiN aur bhee duniya meiN suKHanwar bohot achche
Kehte haiN ki 'GHalib' ka hai andaaz-e-bayaaN aur

[ suKHanwar = poet ]

Tuesday, February 22, 2011

Touching lines na...;)

Usne raat ke andhere mein meri hatheli pe apni nazuk si ungli se likha tha - "Mujhe pyaar hai tumse.."

Jaane kaisi syahi thi...wo lafz mitate bhi nahi aur dikhte bhi nahi...:)

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